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I think this is TACKY!

July 12th, 2008 · 2 Comments · Current Events

I was reading Reuters and came across the headline, “Do You Take This Credit Card?” It caught my interest so I click and read the following:

“JERUSALEM (Reuters) – Guests at an Israeli wedding hall can now insert a credit card into a machine at its entrance, tap in a sum and leave a gift for the bride and groom.

“It’s new in Israel and the world,” Aya Alon Kaufman of the Gan Oranim hall in Tel Aviv said on Israel’s Channel 10 television. “It’s very convenient … guests can give a gift even if they forget their chequebooks.”

She said couples pay 500 shekels ($155) to rent the device, which resembles an automated teller machine, and the recorded funds are transferred into their bank account the next day.”

I understand that for a significant portion of this world, it is common to give cash gifts to newlyweds. It is however a gift, meaning there is no pressure and it is given of someone’s free will. I think people take gifts for granted and I have been horrified at more than one gift registry for weddings that I have been invited to attend.  (Suggestion to the engaged couple: Place a variety of items with a wide range of prices on your registry. If I have met you twice socially and your fiance has worked with me for 8 months, I am not spending $200 on a gift for you.) I just think it is the height of tackiness to rent a credit card machine for those who forgot their checkbooks.  I think good manners says you could wait the few days to receive a check from those who may have forgotten their check.  The only obligation for an attending guest is to show up on time.  Their gift is their presence on your special day. If they have a gift, it should be received with a smile and a prompt thank you after the wedding. If I ever see one of these at a wedding stateside, you better believe I will comment to the lovely couple.


2 Comments so far ↓

  • Monique

    I was watching something the other day on Oxygen, one of those bride shows, and the couple brought in TWO atm machines to ensure that the guests who did not bring gifts could at least get cash at the wedding to give to them.

    To me, that went above and beyond tacky.


  • fragileheart

    Hm… hm… hm… I dunno. I’m torn. I hate getting presents I will never use and even when you register for gifts there’s nothing that’ll stop someone from getting something else. And because the Monica (or Martha – take your pick) inside me hate clutter, I’d almost rather get money. But I do agree that it seems tacky to have an ATM there?!! Or even this CC machine!

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